Winnicott |
My attention has been drawn to Donald Winnicott, an English paediatrician
and psychoanalyst. It is stated that he was especially influential in the field
of object relations theory. He is
best known for his ideas on the true self and false self, and the transitional
object.
Bearing in mind the adage
“Well, there’s this nurse…”, Winnicott’s observations and theories emanate from
his preoccupation with paediatrics. His discourse is derived from that
perspective - context. These observations, and in particular object relations
theory, are of some importance and should be borne in mind when reading signs
of identity.
Winnicott thought that the
"True Self" begins to develop in infancy, in the relationship between
the baby and his/her primary caretaker (Winnicott typically refers to this
person as "the mother"). One of the ways the mother helps the baby
develop an authentic self is by responding in a welcoming and reassuring way to
the baby's spontaneous feelings, expressions, and initiatives. In this way the
baby develops a confidence that nothing bad happens when s/he expresses what
s/he feels, so his/her feelings don't seem dangerous or problematic to him/her,
and s/he doesn't have to put undue attention into controlling or avoiding them.
S/he also gains a sense that s/he is real, that s/he exists and his/her
feelings and actions have meaning.
Winnicott used the term
"True Self" to describe a sense of self based on spontaneous
authentic experience, a sense of "all-out personal aliveness" or
"feeling real". The "False Self"
was, for Winnicott, a defence designed to protect the True Self by hiding it.
He thought that in health, a False Self was what allowed a person to present a
"polite and mannered attitude" in public.
But he saw more serious emotional problems in patients who seemed unable
to feel spontaneous, alive or real to themselves in any part of their lives,
yet managed to put on a successful "show of being real". Such
patients suffered inwardly from a sense of being empty, dead or
"phoney". True self is sometimes referred to as the "real
self".
For Winnicott, in the False
Self, 'Other people's expectations can become of overriding importance,
overlaying or contradicting the original sense of self, the one connected to
the very roots of one's being'. Winnicott thought that such an extreme kind of
False Self began to develop in infancy, as a defence against an environment
that felt unsafe or overwhelming because of a lack of reasonably attuned
caregiving. Winnicott used the term "good enough" to refer to what he
thought of as optimal parenting; he thought that babies need parents who are
usually emotionally attuned and able to empathize with the baby, but not
perfectly so. The danger is that 'through this False Self, the infant builds up
a false set of relationships, and by means of introjections even attains a show
of being real'. The result can be a 'child
whose potential aliveness and creativity has gone unnoticed...concealing an
empty, barren internal world behind a mask of independence'. Yet at the same
time the 'Winnicottian False Self is the ultimate defence against the
unthinkable "exploitation of the True Self, which would result in its
annihilation"'.
By contrast, the True Self
is rooted in, and '"does no more than collect together the details of the
experience of aliveness" - this means the body's life-sustaining
functions, "including the heart's action and breathing"'. Out of this
the baby creates the experience of reality: a sense that '"Life is worth
the trouble of living". In the baby's nonverbal gesture which '...
expresses a spontaneous instinct', the true self potential can be communicated
to, and affirmed by, the primary care giver.
'The False Self in its
pathological guise prevents and inhibits what Winnicott calls the
"spontaneous gesture" of the True Self. Compliance and imitation are
the costly results'. Some would indeed consider that 'the idea of compliance
is central to Winnicott's theory of the false self', and add, paradoxically,
that 'concern for an object is easily a compliant act'. Where the mother is not
responsive to the baby's spontaneity, where instead 'a mother's expectations
are too insistent, they can eventually result in compliant behaviour and an
impaired autonomy', as the baby has 'to manage a prematurely important
object....The False Self enacts a kind of dissociated regard or recognition of
the object; the object is taken seriously, is shown concern, but not by a
person'.
Object relations theory describes the process of developing a psyche
as one is growing up, in relation to others in the environment. Based on
psychodynamic theory, the theory object relations suggests that people relate
to others and situations in their adult lives as shaped by family experiences
during infancy. For example, an adult who experienced neglect or abuse in
infancy would expect similar behaviour from others who remind them of the
neglectful or abusive person from their past (often a parent). These images of
people and events turn into Objects in the subconscious that the person carries
into adulthood, and are used by the subconscious to predict people's behaviour
in their social relationships and interactions.
Internal objects are formed
by the patterns emerging in one's repeated subjective experience of the
caretaking environment which may or may not be accurate representations of the
actual, external others. In the theory, Objects are usually internalized images
of one's mother, father, or primary caregiver, although they could also consist
of parts of a person, for instance an infant relating to the breast, or things
in one's inner world (one's internalized image of others). Later experiences can reshape these early
patterns, but Objects often continue to exert a strong influence throughout
life. Objects are initially comprehended in the infant mind by their functions
and are termed "part objects." The breast that feeds the hungry
infant is the "good breast," while hungry infant that finds no breast
is in relation to the "bad breast." With a "good enough" "facilitating
environment" part object functions eventually transform into a
comprehension of whole objects. This corresponds with the ability to tolerate
ambiguity, to see that both the "good" and the "bad" breast
are a part of the same mother figure.
A transitional object,
comfort object, or security blanket is an item used to provide
psychological comfort, especially in unusual or unique situations, or at
bedtime for small children. Among toddlers, comfort objects may take the form
of a blanket, a stuffed animal, or a favorite toy.
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